Spalding Gray, remembered in comments

Memento Mori, on March 8th, 2004 at 6:46 pm Said:

I just saw the headline in Yahoo! news. They finally found his body. This should bring a little closure to his dear wife & children, but not much. My brother, who introduced me to the joys that were Spalding Gray, committed suicide 2 years ago yesterday. Life is full of serendipitous situations, as is death. We will miss him.

Gabrielle, on March 8th, 2004 at 10:40 pm Said:

I had to find a place to post something…
I just heard the tragic news and my mind is reeling. I’m in shock because I had no idea he was missing…whether it was mentioned on the news media or not…I tend not to watch TV often.
I’m filled with sadness and my heart goes out to his family. I have dealt with suicide in my life with my dearest friend’s death not 5 years ago. I feel deeply for his family. His writing was an inspiration and he will be sorely missed.

Bandy, on March 9th, 2004 at 9:21 am Said:

Life Interrupted indeed. Only a few years late you might suppose, I’m sure there’s a few CSMs to be caught up on.

So long Buddy, thanks.

Cym, on March 9th, 2004 at 5:57 pm Said:

Life interrupted – by demons which we cannot fathom. A talent gone, a light extinguished. How do we mourn this man? How do we comfort those left behind? We wonder why – and reach no real answers. Only hope is left – that his spirit has found the peace he sought, that his remarkable self-examinations will continue to resonate for us, and that in his leaving, all of us will discover how to re-enter life, rather than allow it to be interrupted. Shalom chaverim, go with the angels.

avery, on March 9th, 2004 at 9:08 pm Said:

Spalding Gray was a great man and i know that from personal experience. For he was married to my cousin. I’m so sorry for our loss and i hope he is in a better place now. that last time i saw him was last year at spring break and i remember it as a happy time of fun. Sorry Kathy i hope to see you soon.

Christine, on March 9th, 2004 at 11:02 pm Said:

I feel like I’ve lost a good friend.

Sandy, on March 10th, 2004 at 12:29 am Said:

I I feel so bad, as if a close friend had died. I had never met Spalding, but it was easy to feel intimately involved with him as he shared so much personal history. I saw Monster in a Box a few years ago, and it was almost as if he were talking to each member of the audience one-on-one. What a tragedy, especially for his wife and small children.

Anonymous, on March 11th, 2004 at 3:26 am Said:

I promise to concentrate on life. Life as it is right now. Not what could be or what could have been. This is one of the things that killed Spaulding. I will not let it kill me. I promise that even when it is difficult to get through a day and struggle to want to live, I will appreciate what I have. I will appreciate those who love me and at the very least, live for them, even when I don’t want to live for myself. There are times when nothing seems worthwhile. Yet there are those times, even if few and far between, where I feel total bliss and it is for these times that I will live. I know that if I concentrate hard enough these times will be more frequent. Those who love me and allow me to love them back will keep me alive, even when I don’t want to be. Good-bye Spaulding. You’re death taught me how to live.

glen moore, on March 11th, 2004 at 5:36 pm Said:

I first saw Spalding about 14 years ago at the Goodman Theater in Chicago. He performed “Terrors of Pleasure” and it was an epiphany for me. I find his art very sensitive, smart, lovely and sad. To me, he symbolizes the Everyman of our age: frightened, funny, neurotic,
complex, self-destructing, and torn. Having him suddenly, tragically gone is like losing a limb, or part of my heart. My world will be a little colder from now on.

Tim, on March 12th, 2004 at 12:25 am Said:

I am the person who wrote the entry ending with good-bye Spaulding, your death has taught me how to live. I feel bad now because I made it more about me than him. I realize this blog is about Spaulding. I just want to make it clear that I loved him even though I never met him. I did not want sound smug or judgmental. I have no idea what kind of despair he must have been feeling. Unless you are there feeling what a person is feeling when they take their own lives, it is wrong to be judgmental. Yet, I was sad, hurt and angry. I was also scared because, I feel, I share much of the same anguish he felt about life and immediately wondered if I would share the same fate as well. I will miss Spaulding greatly. He has entertained me for many years and was a blessing to this world. I just wish he were able to overcome his problems and still be here to tell us more great stories. I mourn his death as if he were a good friend or even a member of my own family.

Jim Moore, on March 14th, 2004 at 9:56 pm Said:

I had lunch with Spalding one afternoon at a local diner in the neighborhood..I ask him how he liked the show he was starring in? (Our Town) He told me that it was fun but boring..he wanted to do his monologs more often. I had a nice chat with him and enjoyed his company. I have been a fan of his work since the beginning..I will miss his humour and wit. May peace be with you! We will miss you Spalding..
JIM

mobbs, on March 22nd, 2004 at 1:02 am Said:

I just watched true stories with David Byrne, I didn’t realise when I first saw it years ago that spalding had a major part in the film. it was good to see him doing his thing again. It’s weird when someone dies and you watch them on film. it’s as if they were still around, or perhaps the impression left is like a phantom limb making it hard to believe they are actually gone. I remember reading sex and death and hearing his voice in my head. you’ll be missed spald.

Johnozed, on March 26th, 2004 at 4:02 pm Said:

I had seen Spalding perform over the years and turned a good number of my friends on to him. When he turned up missing I heard from a few that I hadn’t heard from in years. Many more when his body was found. I’ll miss Spalding. I saw him with my partner performing at PS122 in October 2003 and he wasn’t the same. I feel like I should have gone up to him and told him to hang in there. I’ve been depressed before, but I suppose not in the depths that he sank too. My heart goes out to his family and friends. I found him to be inspiring in many ways and I will miss him.

Body Piercing, on March 30th, 2004 at 12:05 am Said:

I think i saw it already, do not remember where though.

itai, on October 8th, 2004 at 3:01 pm Said:

hi guys
i’m not a great internet fan , but there are few men that desreve my , amm… “hard surfing..”
anyway , iv’e been looking for what seems to be fucking forever an audio clip of some kind of spalding talking , and since i currently dont have any file sharing software on my hard drive – what a surprise – i havnt found anything…
can someone please email me a 1 or 2 , (prefferably more) mp3’s of spalding’s speechs?
thanx!

Matt, on March 24th, 2005 at 3:05 pm Said:

just back from a serious bout of clinical depression… away from a world i didn’t want… and discover Spalding’s gone… the world’s a worse place, but Spalding’s art lives and drives us on